Creative Date Ideas
Recently, I have been making lists of ways to show my husband how much I love him. This year my husband and I will celebrate 18 years of marriage. It was five years before the Lord blessed our lives with children. We enjoyed many sweet times together during those times.
Children are the greatest blessings the Lord gives, but it is so easy to just fall into bed after saying goodnight. Having children causes you to be more purposeful and plan in those dates. So I have put together a list of "date ideas" you can do at home, and also a free or low cost going out list.
You have a babysitter for the day, or night! Yay! Hardest part done! But, now what do you do? I know we have a tendency to fall back on doing the same thing over and over again, but I love when we change it up a bit. Here are some ideas that cost little to nothing that we enjoy.
1. Pack a picnic.
Go for a little drive, just enjoying the quiet and talking to each other are some of the best times! Find a little place where you can get out and have a little picnic lunch. We have also been known to pick up a coffee and donut, go to our walking trail and find a nice place by the river to enjoy it...as we watch everyone else exercising. ;)
2. Walking trails.
We have always enjoyed walking trails. Sometimes we'll chose harder hikes, but sometimes just a soft trail where we can walk and talk slowly...just enjoying our time together.
3. Botanical Gardens, Zoos
A lot of botanical gardens are free to walk around and are simply gorgeous! These can be quite busy as everyone loves to walk around them, but usually if you avoid the weekend, it is nice and quiet. You can stop for lunch on the way, or bring a picnic with you. Zoos usually are beautiful to walk around too, but cost a little more.
4. Coffee Shops
One of the funnest things to do is to drive around and try knew places. There are always so many cute, little coffee shops hidden. Many of them offer sandwiches or soups, so it could be your lunch, but sometimes it's just nice to sit down and drink your coffee while it's still hot. (All my moms will understand that.) Visiting coffee shops is on my to do list for 2020.
5. Antique Shops, Museums, Explore your area
Every once in awhile, when it's too cold to be outside, my husband and I will roam around antique shops. We love the big ones that take hours to go through. We find so many neat things to look at...and have so much fun! Definitely explore your area and see what is there.
6.Tennis, Golf, Miniature Golf.
My husband and I love doing active things together, and a little competition is sometimes keeps things fun. We have enjoyed playing tennis and golf together, and have even played miniature golf all dressed up from a banquet.
7. Classical Concert
Now, depending on where you are, this could cost more. Most towns have little pop orchestras which are very inexpensive or even free. It is not something we can do often because the time never works out, but I love it when we can! Maybe because my daddy use to take me on dates to the Boston Symphony when I was a little girl. I remember getting all dressed up to go with him.
Can't get out? Taking that time to develop the relationship is so important, even when getting out is out of the question. Here are some ideas you can do at home, even without a babysitter. If you don't have an early enough bed time for the kids, at least have a "quiet" time that night where they play games or something QUIET in their rooms. If they are noisy, they lose out and have to go to bed early.
At Home Date Ideas
1. Play a Board Game together.
Now, every couple I have talked with has that "ONE" game that they just can't play nice together, so you may have to avoid that one. (Or there are some games your spouse won't play because you ALWAYS win. hehe) But board games are a great way to feel like you are getting quality time together. We love playing most games. Skipbo, Uno are just some we enjoy.
2. Candle light at home.
Grab some take out so you don't have to cook, (night out for you too)...or prepare his favorite meal. Sit at the table, or snuggle on the living room floor by the coffee table. Adds some candles for the perfect dine-in experience.
3. Outside Movie Night
Grab a blanket, or lawn chair and plan a movie outside. If you are blessed with a projector, set up the sheet and play the movie on it. Otherwise, you can always use the laptop. Don't forget some snacks! Sometimes, we just skip the movie and star gaze, enjoying the peacefulness.
4. Go through a book together.
This is probably one of my favorite things to do at home, and one of the easiest. We will pick a book together and plan to read a chapter a week or nightly. One of the books we have gone through like this has been The 5 Love Languages. Sometimes it's on the marriage relationship, sometimes on childrearing or even a Bible topic. We are always looking for recommendations, so would love to hear yours below!
Hope this list is an encouragement to you! Taking time to work on our relationship with our husband is so very important!
Do you have anything to add to the list? Please share in the comments below!